“She’s got so much revision to do. I wish she would settle down and do it.”
If you feel worried for you children about exams and the marks they might get, try to think how overwhelming it can be for them. Then, once the exams are finished, it’s a countdown to the results which can be equally stressful for everyone.
As a parent you can really help your children through this time, just by being there for them and encouraging them to talk about their feelings and fears. You can also ask for help from the school itself. Here are just a few ideas to make exam time that bit more bearable:
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Stay calm. Be ready to celebrate success, but also have an action plan if the results are not as good as you expect.
Have a conversation today with your son or daughter to make sure you both have the same expectations going into Thursday, and give them the reassurance that whatever the results, you are proud of them and will be encouraging them in the future.
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Immediately after the hard work and pressure of exams, parents and young people may feel relieved and relaxed.
This may soon give way to an even more stressful period - waiting for and dealing with exam results. This stage can be more uncomfortable than the exams themselves because parents and young people feel helpless. Before or during the exams they could at least do something but now they can only wait.
Children may get caught up in endless repetitions of regret and recrimination, going over what they did or failed to do and how they might have done it differently.
Parents may be uncertain as to whether it would be better to discuss what to do when the results arrive or leave well alone. Everyone may walk around 'on eggshells' and when the results do come out...
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One in five of 15 to 16 year olds have changed their mind about leaving school to find a job and more than two in five are thinking more carefully about the subjects or qualifications they choose. In these uncertain times, it is more important than ever that your child knows what options are available to them so they can make the right choices. There is a broad range of exciting qualifications and learning routes available for young people to choose...
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The move to high school can come as a shock to both parents and children. You may feel your child isn’t ready to take the responsibility for what is probably a longer journey to school, perhaps using public transport. They will usually have a large amount of books and equipment to carry around and may find it difficult to organise themselves. As the school will be expecting your child to take greater responsibility, you should try to continue this at home as much as possible, but that can be easier said than done.
Here are some tips parents find useful:
- At this age children start to want more privacy when they’re getting ready. Organise a schedule for the bathroom in the mornings so no-one is made late by waiting!
- Try and resist the temptation to do...
Immediately after the hard work and pressure of exams, parents and young people may feel relieved and relaxed. This may soon give way to an even more stressful period - waiting for and dealing with exam results. This stage can be more uncomfortable than the exams themselves because parents and young people feel helpless. Before or during the exams they could at least do something but now they can only wait.
Children may get caught up in endless repetitions of regret and recrimination, going over what they did or failed to do and how they might have done it differently. Parents may be uncertain as to whether it would be better to discuss what to do when the results arrive or leave well alone. Everyone may walk around 'on eggshells' and when the results do come out, can feel too...
Children can achieve well at school when their family and friends take an interest in their school and schoolwork. Getting involved, even in the simplest way, shows that you care about their education. Often, the more supported a child feels at home, the more effectively she or he will learn at school. Whatever your lifestyle, or family situation, it is never too soon (or too late) to start helping a child develop a positive attitude towards learning. Here are some ideas:
- Give encouragement and show appreciation of the child’s achievements, whether great or small.
- Allow them to make mistakes and to learn from them.
- Give feedback rather than criticism, eg saying ‘that didn’t seem to work’ rather than ‘you got it wrong’. This helps them think...
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