The Children and Families 2013 Bill was recently introduced to the House of Commons, and if passed will come into effect in England and Wales in 2014. The bill covers several important areas of child welfare, including adoption, shared parenting and special education needs.
Most important for those involved in long running disputes about arrangements for their children or those intending to divorce or separate is the proposed legislation surrounding shared parenting and the conduct of court cases concerning children.
Many parents feel that the law favours one side over the other and encourages unnecessary divisions within families beyond those created by divorce.
The government hopes that the new legislation being...
We are always here to support you through difficult times so if you feel in need of a bit of extra support while going through divorce or separation or other family problems don’t hesitate to contact us. We offer a live chat, helpline and email service and all our details can be found on our home page. You can talk things through with a trained support worker who is there to listen, advise and support you.
Sometimes you might need to seek some counselling to help you work through your feelings after a divorce or separation, and there is no shame in this. No two people will cope with the same situation in the same way. Whilst one person might be able to move on really quickly and throw themselves into a new relationship, for anther it can...
When dealing with divorce and separation it can be really hard to find any peer to peer support. It can be an extremely isolating time and sometimes it is nice to know that there are others who are going through something similar and who can understand all that you are going through.
So how do you go about finding this sort of support?
Well there are organisations out there that have online communities where you can find other adults who might be local to you, and also going through a divorce or separation. Some organisations even have local support groups although it might mean that you have to do a bit of research yourself to find these. Gingerbread offer a wealth of support to single parents and you can access their online...
The very early stages of going through a family breakdown can be a very painful and difficult time. Not only are you grieving for the loss of your relationship and coming to terms with this but you are expected to continue with your day to day life, such as work, children, etc. Many parents say the inital stages feels like an emotional haze and that feel of being on auto-pilot. There will be a mixture of emotions experienced including shock, anger, hurt or even relief. It is important to accept that this is a very natural part of the process of moving forwards and it will take time. As hard as it is, it is a case of taking each day as it comes without setting yourself unrealistic goals or expectations. It is common to feel up and down...
It is really hard to describe the mixture of emotions an individual feels when going through the difficulties of divorce and separation. Feeling angry and resentful is a very natural part of the process of moving forwards and sometimes it is common to go through the negative before you see that light at the end of the tunnel.
It is important that you are able to acknowledge your feelings and any triggers that might be making you feel angry and work on these. As a parent you have to try and set a good example to your children so it is important that you do find ways to manage your anger when situations become heated.
Normally when anger takes hold you are given some signs such as a quickening heart beat, tension or a knot in your stomach. This is your body’s way of...
We are only human and we have all had times in our lives when we struggle to cope with what life throws our way. The end of a relationship is undoubtedly going to be stressful and it is really important that we do recognise our feelings and are able to act on them if we sense that we are struggling to manage our stress levels.
So how can we find ways to help us manage our stress levels? Have a look at our Tips below and see if you can incorporate any of these into your day to day life:
- Something as simple as going for a walk on your own, or with your children can be wonderfully therapeutic as getting yourself out in the fresh air can be a real tonic.
- Do something with your children such as baking a cake.
Family Lives recognises that when a non-resident parent refuses to be involved with their child it can be heartbreaking and difficult to make any sense of. There might be very little you can do to force this issue and it might simply come down to you reinforcing to your child how much they are loved. Explaining that sometimes people behave in ways that are hurtful to others will hopefully help them to understand that they have done nothing wrong which will avoid them blaming themselves. As adults we all have choices but when your child starts to ask questions it is important that you give them age appropriate information that you feel they can cope with.
Knowing both parents gives children a sense of their own identity but this can be really...
The information that Child Maintenance Options has given on these pages is not a substitute for independent professional advice and readers should get professional advice relevant to their particular circumstances.
What is child maintenance?
Child maintenance is regular, reliable financial support that helps towards a child’s everyday living costs. The parent who doesn’t have main day-to-day care of the child pays child maintenance to the parent who does. In some cases, this person can be a grandparent or guardian.
Why is child maintenance important?
Child maintenance can make a real difference to children as it can help pay for things like clothing, food and other essentials. It can also help to keep both...
This article is kindly provided by Families Need Fathers (FNF). FNF is a charity concerned with the problems of maintaining a child's relationship with both parents during and after family breakdown. They offer information, advice and support services for parents.
Shared parenting is when children are brought up with the love and guidance of both parents.
There is much discussion about how to describe the continued involvement of both parents in the lives of their children following separation or divorce. ‘Shared parenting...
Parent consultation: information for parents going through separation or divorce on contact and arrangements for children Family Lives was commissioned to run consultation groups for both parents and children to find out the best way to help separating parents reach decisions about their family. The consultation used examples of both new and existing materials to find out which way it could be most effectively presented to parents and children – younger age groups as well as teenagers.
Parents on the whole preferred the idea of having one comprehensive booklet, with sections covering different aspects facing them and their children. Feedback from the focus groups informed revision of the ‘Parenting Plans: putting your children first. A guide for...
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