I am at my wits end and don't know who or where to turn!
My teenage son is 14 and is currently on a fixed term exclusion from school (10 days). Tomorrow he is due to attend a special school - intrim education centre for 4 school days. A lot of these children have complex needs and have dne very wrong things to get excluded for. My son has been excluded for failing to follow instructions. He would not remove his hooded jumper. This is an ongoing problem along with using his mobile in lessons. He seems to have an obsessive urge to check it.
Well anyway he went for the induction on Monday and she evidently is very scary (as confirmed by my husband). We have an appointment at the school today where 3 of them took turns to tell my son how out of order he has been etc. One of these adults has an obvious dislike of my son and spent the whole time staring at him! I have been very supportive of the school as well as of my son.
Tonight my son has kicked off and is refusing to go tomorrow. He is sooooooooo angry. Says he has done nothing wrong, that I always take his brothers' side (they are 16 and he is in 6th form doing very well and 10 with a recent diagnosis of ADHD), he hates being here, I embarrassed him at school for threatening to take his phone etc. He was so desperately upset and I hate it. I hate the thought of him being upset. Something deeper is wrong. He gets angry, punches the wall and doors and seems to be losing weight rather quickly. I love him so much and am so worried.
I don't profess to be a perfect parent but by god I am trying my best. However I feel a complete and utter failure. We have had problems in the past but then doesnt every family. My husband used to be verbally abusive after he had been drinking, physically twice but we worked through that. He got help and has come out the other side. It was very infrequent but I feel I have messed my family up somehow.
I hate seeing my son upset. The other side of the equation is I am worried about what will happen if he doesnt go to this centre and can't go back to school. What will happen? What do I need to do?
I am terrified. My life is falling apart :'(
Hope someone can help