Help, my 14 year old daughter has started throwing things at me. Her twin sister isn't much better. Both shout and are sarcastic, rude and disrespectful if they don't get their own way, and the former can't say a word unless she shouts.
I feel that I have tried to reason with them since they were small, and allowed them to express their opinions, which is something I couldn't do with my own parents. Now they are throwing it back at me so that I feel powerless against all of my family, parents and children. I feel my only way out is for me to leave the household, although if they start getting properly violent instead of just threatening it I will have to call social services. My husband isn't much help to be honest as he has been diagnosed with depression, so he just withdraws to the bedroom if it all gets too much. Perhaps chucking them out is the only option, because I am beginning to hate them for making my life a misery. I can only relax and enjoy myself when I am out of the house.
Note in public their behaviour is impeccable....go figure!
One of their issues is that we don't do much with them. Well this is true, but I have a disability so I can't go swimming with them. Neither of them can cycle, and they are into riding and animals, while I am into dancing and music. They like theme parks, but although we have taken them, neither of us likes the rides, so neither of us goes on with them, and watching isn't good enough. None of us has the same interests. I have tried to get them involved with my choir, but they aren't interested, other than coming to concerts every so often. The trouble is we have taken them to things, but because its not the same as what they friends say they are doing, its not good enough for them.
My daughter is currently unhappy with me because she wants to change riding school, but I have refused to do the research for it, as I am happy with the current riding school. She however doesn't want to have to make the phone calls to get her questions answered about volunteering to work with the horses as well as the cost of lessons.
I am just feeling overwhelmed and inadequate, and don't know whether I'm raising monsters. I suspect not in the long run, but in the short term I can't put up with the constant shouting and the fact that their angry feelings are turning into a physical realtity. Every day I feel like contacting social services.
