I have a 13yr old son who is going off the rails and I am finding it increasingly difficult to control him.
His attitude is terrible, shouts and swears at both me and his dad if he cannot get his own way. Refuses to keep his bedroom tidy or help around the house, then demands money for his phone.
He has started air cadets which he loves and I really hoped this would do him good and start teaching him respect etc but how wrong I was. He is fine there but starts again when he gets home. He gets on well at school and is in top set for most of his subjects, he just seems to let his anger out at home.
He asked me last week if he could go to town to see his "girlfriend" (he has only seen her twice but they chat on facebook), I said no because of his attitude. Got up this morning and he has gone, left me a note saying he has gone out for the day,dont ring him or call Police, he will be back at 8ish tonight. I am at my wits end, we live in a small rural village with no public transport. He has taken his bike but the town is 7 miles away and the roads are dangerous. I have sent him a text saying "okay, you have your day but I want you home by 8" and had no response.
I don't know what to do, I also have a 4yr old son who is being affected by all the shouting and swearing and hides in my lap when his brother throws a strop.
It is not helping my marriage, my husband and I have started rowing and are constantly stressed by this and I am worried we will end up splitting. I am registered disabled and my husband is my full time carer so I heavily rely on him, I have enough stresses with my health without all this with my son.
I hope someone can offer some advise as getting desperate now.