Teens and risky behaviour

They may kick up a fuss about being old enough to look after themselves, but the truth is that teens don’t always make the right choices and they know this as well as you do. Setting some ground rules makes it clear that they’re being looked after and makes them feel safe and secure. Don’t just make it a one-off conversation, keep communication open with your teen and talk to them about the risks they may face in certain scenarios.

It's worth talking to your teen about alcohol to prevent them from binge drinking or curb the amount they drink, especially if they're underage. Listen to your teen’s thoughts on drinking and don't be judgmental. You may want to mention the long-term health risks or effects drinking can have. If your teen goes out and you think there will be drinking, remind them no one should be drinking and driving. If you suspect or find out that your child has been taking drugs, don't panic, find out if they're just experimenting or have an addiction. If they do, let them know you will support them to seek help.

Your teen or their friends may have passed their driving test recently and got a car. Make sure they don't take risks when it comes to driving. Remind them to drive safely, wear their seatbelt, not to use a phone while driving and not to speed or show off for the thrill of it. If you think they're going to go out drinking, ensure they get a taxi home rather than drive home. Make sure they are aware of the laws of using a mobile phone and driving.

Help them say ‘no’ to pressure - Point out that their friends might just be showing off. Help them see that they can have a mind of their own. If you are worried about the friends they are keeping or that they may be involved in a gang, try to spot the signs.  

Make sure they are aware of the risks - Teens need to understand risks. Lots of young people get in trouble if they are under the influence of drugs or alcohol.  

Positive messages help - Your behaviour will influence them most. Try to set a positive environment so it helps them to flourish and feel more secure. 

Don’t expect instant solutions - If they are displaying risky behaviour, it might be they are possibly struggling with other issues such as bullying, self-esteem, mental health, or relationships. Let them know you are there to listen and help. Avoid trying to solve everything with one conversation. Seek support from others such as your GP, the school, family and friends. 

Be clear about the boundaries – Talk to them about what is and what isn’t allowed in your house and help them understand what your worries are too.  

Not going out late alone – Have a conversation about how they will get home. Encourage them to keep in touch by phone and letting you or a friend know where they are going. Go through safety tips with them so they understand what to do if they face an uncomfortable or worrying situation. 

Keep the conversation flowing – Keep talking about anything and everything! Having open chats with your teen is important as it lets them know that they can come to you if they are struggling. Think about how you talk to your teen too, keep your tone calm and avoid shouting.